15 Layers of Self-Discovery | Day 3 | Compliments
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What is the best compliment you have ever received? How did it make you feel about yourself? I receive compliments for my eyes, my hair, my writing skills, my height i.e 5.7″ and my warmth but out of all these compliments, there is only one compliment that actually makes me happy, i.e. when someone talks about my writing skills.
You know why? Because that is something I have discovered in myself, I was never a born writer, I still don’t know if I am a profound or eloquent writer. But I love to write and when I decided to write, I took a decision to follow my passion for writing.
When people compliment my writing, be it a blog or a poem, I feel content. Maybe my self-esteem increases and my morale gets a boost, but it helps me to stay self-motivated. And I love to write to an extent, where even if no one appreciates it, I will continue to write because it makes me happy.
Self-discovery exercise for Day 3- Embrace Compliments
A journey of self-discovery is a daunting prospect. It is usually a lengthier process. And you need to be prepared for what you might discover about yourself, it may not always be good and positive things to see when you have a closer look at yourself, but it will help you work on them.
People often compliment you for various things and you either feel shy and blush when you listen to them or take pride in those little remarks people make about you. But do you notice the beauty of those compliments? It might help you discover something about yourself if you pay close attention to what people often say about you or what is that one thing people like the most in you.
“Write down 5 compliments you often receive about yourselves. “
Research shows that praise is an effective motivator. Compliments activate the reward centers in the brain, called the ventral striatum and the ventral medial prefrontal cortex. One study even found that receiving a compliment is just as thrilling to the brain as receiving cash — both are perceived by the striatum as “social rewards.” – Insider.
When we receive a compliment for a personality trait or the effort that we put into doing something such as finishing a painting, writing a book, or preparing a meal, it can go a long way.
Some people have conflicts while accepting compliments, they don’t receive them well. Even if they don’t react in front of others, they don’t accept what they hear about themselves. It could be a result of some deeper issue/unresolved conflict with self, unfulfilled dreams, and desires.
Acknowledging the compliments you receive, helps you to address the deeper issues related to low confidence or lower self-esteem. Take all the compliments in your stride and believe in what you want to believe for yourself.
I hope you do this exercise and discover something about yourself that will keep you motivated all day long until we meet tomorrow. See you.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram . An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.